December 1, 2009
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Having an “Attached” Moment
Attached Moment (verb)-a moment where you inexplicably run to your spouse and hug him/her until the feeling subsides-or a feeling where you just want your spouse so greatly there is nothing else worthy of thinking about except seeing/hugging said spouse.
I am having an attached moment, I really really miss my husband right now, he is at work nozzling soap bags for the next two hours, and I really wish I could go up to him and hug him and tell him how much I truly madly deeply love him. He sometimes thinks that because he can’t buy me everything my heart desires, which is not a lot, trust me…I am not materialistic at all, he feels he’s not good enough. The other day we had to go to the grocery store for a last minute female item and we didn’t even have the money to buy a doughnut from the bakery. He has since felt miserable and I have tried to tell him those things don’t matter the simple things such as helping me cook dinner, feeding the cats and even just hugging me is all I need.
I know that we are close to broke and getting by week to week is difficult but I am feeling really lonesome and needing my buddy right now, he has worked 11 days straight and 2 more until he takes a day off to spend with me. I know as soon as he gets in the car tonight when I pick him up from work I will kiss him and tell him everything is all right, in probably not so many words but enough that he knows what I mean.
I know marriage is tough, and it makes it even harder when your spouse is working a lot and you’re just barely scraping by, but the thing I keep in mind is, it isn’t forever eventually things will ease up and we will be able to see each other again, more often than we are now. Attached moments are great when your spouse is there, because all you gotta do is run and hug him and tell him you love him and don’t let go until you feel better. They’re bad when he’s working because I can’t do anything but try to find something to do so I don’t think about it so much, or count down the hours until I can get in the car and pick him up from work.
Church nights are the hardest because I have to go by myself, but at least I have my church family there to make the loneliness not seem so bad. Thats one advantage of going to a congregation where you have people that will talk to you, ask you how your husband is doing, it makes it feel better. Still though once a attached moment happens it won’t quit until you see said spouse and give him a hug. I am ready for him to be home. I love him so much, I don’t know what I would do without him.
Have you ever experienced an attached moment?
