Month: June 2010

  • Into My Mother’s World

    When she sat in her chair, at her desk, we all knew we were supposed to be quiet, and leave her alone.

    “Go outside and play,” my father would tell us, or, “Go to your room and play,” if the weather was uncooperative.

    My older brothers had no problem with going out or into one of their rooms to hang out while my mother wrote.

    Sometimes, I’d go off with my younger brother and play. Other times, I’d promise to be quiet, and I would sit on the sofa, behind her.

    Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap…

    My mother was completely immersed in whatever world she was writing about. 

    My imagination went to work:

  • New York Xanga Meet on July 24th (Updated 06/14)

    Hey everybody,

    A bunch of people and I are meeting up in New York next month, so we decided to have an official meet up!  So far, it looks like it is going to be a pretty decent turn out with people coming from out of state (i.e. California, New Mexico, Canada, Maryland). 

    The meet up will be a laid back social gathering in Central Park.  Similar to what we did at the San Diego Meet, everyone that comes could bring something such as food, supplies or games to play.  I believe Mr. Vanedave will be giving us a comedy show as well.  I will also be offering free massages to everyone (just kidding).

    Details are still being finalized.  So far, here’s what we have planned: 

  • Diary of a Fat Girl: My Story

    Editor’s Note: Welcome to our newest feature, “Diary of a Fat Girl”! It’s a weekly column (running every Thursday) from our awesome team member Jen, who will explore issues and ideas related to all things plus-sized! Jen would love to hear your feedback and comments, so don’t hesitate to share your thoughts!

    The main editors here at Lovelyish have very graciously offered me a chance to talk about everything plus size – from clothing to body politics to dating – as a feature here every Thursday. Since this is my first post on the subject, I figured I’d tell you a little about my own relationship with my body.

    I’m fat. Based on the few posts I’ve made here so far, you’re probably aware that I make no bones about this. Whether I wear something that society tells me is “flattering” to my shape, or something that hugs my skin and exposes every curve, I’m still fat; I have been for as long as I can remember. This is not to say that I have always been content in this body. 

  • LIEK OMG WHERE IS MY ROMEO?

    What is romantic?

    Well, some will tell you that it is flowers and lovely dates. Others will insist it is passionate kisses and walks along the beach. Some might argue that it is the little things, like little notes left to be found. Ironically enough, the romantic era was less about human love and more about nature. Romantic is a broad concept that seems to greatly vary between individuals. However, I am adamant that many teenagers choose the wrong idols. Think for a second about the role models most young people these days have, in an age unlike any other. Turn on the TV, you hear stories about people cheating without remorse and women being beaten, both fictional and horrifyingly real accounts.

    On the reverse side, we are exposed to unrealistic and enhanced “love.”

  • Media Influences on Weight: America vs. Japan

    “In the United States, you see all these beautiful skinny people on television, and yet Americans keep getting fatter anyway,” said Sasaki, the public health expert at Tokyo University. “Why is that?”

    I started to do a series investigating how it is that certain cultures seem to be thinner than America on my other blog. Someone asked me if I would pick that up again here, and I wasn’t sure if I wanted to. But, I find it very interesting, so I think I will.

    Today’s topic, the media’s influences on weight.

    In America, we hear it all the time: society puts so much pressure to be thin. Thin women are glorified, seen everywhere in our tv showes, magazines, movies, and even music. We see headlines of celebrities like “Britney Spears’ huge body after having a baby,” or, “Best and Worst Beach Bodies,” as well as, “Is Nicole Richie too thin?”

    In America, headlines like these give some kids mixed signals: we will be scrutinized for being big, but then scrutinized for being too thin? Oh, no, wait. You want us to be skinny, but just get there in a “healthy” way. I mean, forget that our bodies may not be able to get below 130 without some extreme dieting, because even though we must be skinny, we have to “healthy,” right?

  • Weird Relationship Rules I’ve Never Heard Of

    My friend broke up with her long time boyfriend of two years. She felt that the two of them were not heading down the same path in life. She said there had been many things about him that disappointed her but primarily, it was not being proactive enough to getting a job. We were all college students at the time. So one day, she broke up with him much to his and everyone else’s surprise.

    A few weeks later, her ex-boyfriend was now with someone else. My friend grew quite angry over the news. When I asked her to explain, she said there was a rule saying that the girl should always be the one to move on first. I had never heard of this “rule” and thought it was silly!! I didn’t understand why she was so angry because she was the one who ended the relationship. She goes on to say that guys and girls have different “rules” in relationships and break-ups and that a guy should “wait” or “mourn” over a lost relationship longer than the girl before getting into a new relationship.

    Do you know any other weird relationship rules like this?

  • Personal Search and Customizable Home Pages, now in Beta!

    A few exciting announcements:

    1. Personal Search is now on your private page! 

    Now you can easily search all of your own posts, right from your private page… premium users can sneak a peek at the beta here:

    Just change your “Your Home” setting, and click save… you’ll see the new search module in the upper left of your private page. 

  • Xangans Paperback Now On the Market

    Xangans on the market now =)

    The final cover above is linked to the product details cover on amazon.com. We’ve kept the price low at $9.95 for 220 pages, 30 Xangan authors. 

  • 10 Disturbing Kiddie Pageant Images

    I am in no way qualified to discuss the politics of kiddie pageants, but I’m nonetheless horrified by pictures of the little girls who participate in them. It’s so unnatural; it just freaks me out.

  • Time To Grow Up

    I realized that when I turned 13 I was expected to grow up and leave childish things behind. When I didn’t leave things behind that was considered for children like Pokemon, or the Spice Girls ( how are either of these just for children anyway?) I was told “You are too old for that!”

    Or I was often laughed at. Now that I’m older I still haven’t stopped liking Pokemon, or the Spice Girls. If that’s what I enjoy, why should I stop liking it just because I’m an adult?